How do you define yourself? Or do you let other people and the circumstances around you define who YOU are?
Feeling like you have very little control over your life will put you on a very anxious and uncertain path. Efforts to feel good, health-wise, will be better supported when your life is grounded in certainty – when life unfolds with smoothness and consistency but how?
Think about your life, your relationships, your work, and the activities you are involved in. How much control do you have? Do you feel like your true inner self is able to shine and freely express who you are or do you feel trapped into patterns controlled by outside circumstances?
I believe we are spiritual beings having a physical-human experience. Our spirit is connected to the source of all creation. We are capable of creating our own stories with the right mental focus.
It’s all about perspective shifts. Is the glass half empty? If yes, suddenly life is not so pleasant. Is the glass half full? If yes, suddenly things are looking up!
There’s no one to blame but only how you perceive things. It’s not the glasses fault that you see it as half empty or half full. Suddenly with this mindset you should realize you have control over how you perceive things.
You might say, the news drives you crazy or your neighbor drives you crazy, but are those circumstances controlling you or is it YOU allowing those circumstances to impact your life. Some things can’t be changed to our liking but we can let them go. We don’t have to let them take up space in our brains and drive us crazy.
YOU have control. YOU have creative power. YOU can tell your story.
So what about those problems that inevitably pop up throughout. How do we handle those surrounding circumstances? When you feel tension and are capture by struggles in life you need to have some tools to filter them out.
You need to develop an understanding of what you can change and what you can’t change. Some struggles in life are lessons we need to learn so we can grow and move to a higher level of being. Some struggles we will never change or control and need to let go so we can keep moving forward on our way that’s best for us.
Qi is energy and energy wants to flow. Good health requires sufficient qi that is free flowing and uninhibited. There are struggles in life that are like qi-vampires that suck the energy right out of us because we stay engaged in the struggle, we don’t learn any lessons that elevates our being and we falsely think we can change and control the circumstance…we need to let it go.
Forgiveness – the wrong idea about forgiving is thinking you must accept the wrong-doings that you believe others have made against you. Forgiveness is not about acceptance, it’s about letting go. If you continue to think about these struggles and tensions, you get stuck and again your qi is drained away diminishing your health and happiness.
Don’t let these outside circumstances inside you. You can stay centered and in control by making a conscious decision to let go and keep moving forward in a positive way. Your energy moves outward from the inside like a shinning star. Stay open and keep that flow going. Don’t let that negative energy from the outside penetrate your body. Don’t let it enter your heart and crush your spirit.
Again I ask, are those circumstances controlling you or is it YOU allowing those circumstances to impact your life. It’s a perspective-shift. You have control. You just have to decide how you want to look at it.
One thing is for sure, everything changes. We need to embrace change. As we go through life we develop tools to help us through the changes and struggles. An ending is also part of a cycle. Some transitions move us into new beginnings that require a different set of tools and thinking. The mindset needs to shift and change to adapt.
As a cycle ENDS and all appears to be doom and gloom – out of the ashes rises the fiery Phoenix – a new beginning. Like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly, changes move us into something anew. Change is inevitable. Embrace it and thrive, be resistant to change and stay stuck and age rapidly as the vital life force is drained from your body by this tension and struggle.
Don’t let others tell your story. You take control of your story and you tell it in a way that supports positive growth and happiness for you. And as you fill your life up with happiness it will naturally overflow and spread into the world around you and into the hearts of others. This is the way of lovingkindness – a tenderness that naturally moves outward from the heart towards others.
